Enneagram Pet Peeves

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While the enneagram is all about what motivates us and how we function in the world to avoid our core fear and wounding message… It can also include things like pet peeves!

Yes, those little announces that can tick us off or push our buttons do have come correlation with our enneagram type.

Now it’s not a one-to-one correlation.
Example: Messes might annoy most type 1s, but it might not annoy a few type 1s because messes do not fall into those type 1s’ “bad” category.

You might resonate with pet peeves from other types!
I know that as I was writing this I found many pet peeves that bother me, listed under other types.

All that said, I’ll be listing some pet peeves for each enneagram type below but remember that these lists are not absolutes.

Why should we learn about enneagram pet peeves?

For yourself – you can learn what triggers you and eventually learn how to relax in that area of frustration especially when you realize that your pet peeve is not a sign of your core fear or wounding message.

For others – learning what bothers the other types can help you have better relationships with those types. You can’t perfectly avoid everyone’s pet peeves but you can definitely be mindful of them and limit them.

Type 1 Pet Peeves

Inefficiency
Ignoring Rules
Lack of Responsibility
Dishonesty
Unclear Expectations
Lack of Common Courtesy

Type 2 Pet Peeves

Ingratitude
Being Taken Advantage Of
Selfishness
Lack of Compassion
Not Being Included
When People Don’t Want Their Help

Type 3 Pet Peeves

Incompetence
Wasting Time
Lack of Recognition
Being Passed Over
Being Told to Slow Down
Inefficiency

Type 4 Pet Peeves

Insincerity
Feeling Misunderstood
Close Mindedness
Feeling Rejected
Being Told to Be Like Everyone Else
Shallowness

Type 5 Pet Peeves

Lack of Privacy
Ignorance
Emotionally Charged Conversations
Too Much Noise
Not Being Respected
Lack of Direction

Type 6 Pet Peeves

Unreliability
Disloyalty
Sudden Change of Plans
Misuse of Authority
Having to Make Quick Decisions
Lack of Transparency

Type 7 Pet Peeves

Negativity
Limitations
Dwelling on the Past
Not Being Taken Seriously
Boring Routines
Wasted Opportunities

Type 8 Pet Peeves

Deception
Micromanagement
People Mistaking Their Passion/Volume for Anger
People Who Only Complain & Don’t Take Action
Indecisiveness
Lack of Autonomy