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The holidays can be the hardest time of the year if you are spending it alone. Here are enneagram tips for being alone for the holidays.

Recently, I had someone reach out to me thanking me for my Healthier Holidays post but pointed out that it was geared toward people who have friends and family around for the holiday season.

What about the people who will be alone for the holidays?

They are right… we need tips and advice for those who are alone and/or lonely for the holidays. 

The holidays can be the most wonderful time of the year… but they can also be the hardest time of the year. 

I don’t want to leave the enneagram types without some tips for how to handle the holidays alone so here is the post for you if you find yourself doing the holiday season solo this year. 

Side note: I also have a post on grief and loss by enneagram type that may be worth checking out as well.

What is the Enneagram?

The Enneagram is a personality typing system that shows us the nine ways that people in the world default to in order to live their lives.

Enneagram Types:
Type 1 | Type 2 | Type 3 | Type 4 | Type 5 | Type 6 | Type 7 | Type 8 | Type 9

Not sure which enneagram type you are? You can check out my posts on how to find your enneagram type and how to confirm your enneagram type to help figure things out.

The holidays can be the hardest time of the year if you are spending it alone. Here are enneagram tips for being alone for the holidays.

The Enneagram Tips For Being Alone For The Holidays

Note: You might as well read the tips for all nine types as they honestly can be helpful for any type. This also means, I’ve duplicated some of these tips so don’t be surprised if you read the same thing twice!

Type 1 Alone For the Holidays Tips

Readjust the Ideals – As a 1, you are an idealist. There is a way to do things and an ideal way that things should be done… and that includes the holidays. But if you will be alone for the holidays this year, you should readjust those ideals. Being upfront with the reality will help you feel those post-holiday blues less. 

Don’t Feel Compelled – As a 1, you tend to follow expectations (see the Hornevian groups). But if something is not working for you and increasing the pain this holiday season, lose it. Your mental health is more important than people getting your Christmas card or your traditional homemade cookies.

Plan Ahead – Being alone is not what most people want for the holidays, but if you let it surprise you and dictate how things go, it will be much worse. Accept that this your holidays will be alone this year and plan to make it as enjoyable as possible. 

Type 2 Alone For the Holidays Tips

Volunteer – As a 2, you love connection. Being alone for the holidays doesn’t mean you have to actually be alone. Volunteer at a homeless shelter, toy drive, animal shelter, etc. 

Don’t Feel Compelled – As a 2, you tend to follow expectations (see the Hornevian groups). But if something is not working for you and increasing the pain this holiday season, lose it. Your mental health is more important than people getting your Christmas card or your traditional homemade cookies.

Join a Class – Find a class that is scheduled during the holiday season and then actually attend. It will get you out of the house occasionally and you can hang out with others 

Type 3 Alone For the Holidays Tips

Seek Connections – If you are alone for the holidays, it is what it is. But odds are you have ways that you can still connect with others. Call an old friend, talk to a neighbor, play a virtual game or watch a movie together with a loved one who is out of state.

Avoid What Makes it Worse – TV shows, Instagram accounts, holiday hotspots… if they deepen your loneliness avoid them, mute them, etc. 

Plan Ahead – Being alone is not what most people want for the holidays, but if you let it surprise you and dictate how things go, it will be much worse. Accept that this your holidays will be alone this year and plan to make it as enjoyable as possible. 

Type 4 Alone For the Holidays Tips

Make a Gratitude List – It’s easy to focus on the negatives, especially for a type 4. Make a list of things that you are grateful for; both things of the past and things in the present.

Readjust the Ideals – As a 4, you are an idealist. There is an ideal way in your mind of how things should go whether it’s a memory of the past or a fantasized ideal of your mind… and that includes the holidays. But if you will be alone for the holidays this year, you should readjust those ideals. Being upfront with the reality will help you feel those post-holiday blues less. 

Join a Class – Find a class that is scheduled during the holiday season and then actually attend. It will get you out of the house occasionally and you can hang out with others 

Type 5 Alone For the Holidays Tips

Get Moving – No need to wait for the New Year for an exercise resolution! Pick a way of moving your body and go do it! Maybe even set a goal of a certain amount of times during the holiday season.

Make a List – Make a list of things that you can do that includes both low-key activities and more involved activities – a range from reading a book to going skiing – so that you can refer to it when loneliness strikes.

Invest in Yourself – As a 5, you know recharge time is important. But if your year has left you running on fumes, now is a great time to invest in yourself. Recharge, eat healthy, and recuperate for the next year.

Type 6 Alone For the Holidays Tips

Make New Traditions – Most type 6s love tradition so holidays spent alone can be very difficult since those traditions can’t happen. Make new traditions for your holiday season. Have a movie marathon (holiday-themed or not), do a puzzle, bake, or maybe paddleboarding is your new holiday tradition!

Don’t Feel Compelled – As a 6, you tend to follow expectations (see the Hornevian groups). But if something is not working for you and increasing the pain this holiday season, lose it. Your mental health is more important than people getting your Christmas card or your traditional homemade cookies.

Join a Class – Find a class that is scheduled during the holiday season and then actually attend. It will get you out of the house occasionally and you can hang out with others 

Type 7 Alone For the Holidays Tips

Make Space for Emotions – It’s okay and actually healthier to feel your emotions during times like these. As a 7, I know you fear you’ll get stuck in the negatives but remember, you do not have to live in these emotions or spend the entire holiday season in them…just don’t suppress or deny them. Accept the sad feelings with the happy feelings so that you can more holistically enjoy the holidays.

Readjust the Ideals – As a 7, you are an idealist. There is an ideal way of doing things that you imagine would bring the most joy… and that includes the holidays. But if you will be alone for the holidays this year, you should readjust those ideals. Being upfront with the reality will help you feel those post-holiday blues less. 

Type 8 Alone For the Holidays Tips

Go on a Solo Vacation – If you don’t want to spend the holidays alone, get away! You might still be alone on vacation but it will be somewhere new and different which will ease that feeling of loneliness. 

Avoid What Makes it Worse – TV shows, Instagram accounts, holiday hotspots… if they deepen your loneliness avoid them, mute them, etc. 

Plan Ahead – Being alone is not what most people want for the holidays, but if you let it surprise you and dictate how things go, it will be much worse. Accept that this your holidays will be alone this year and plan to make it as enjoyable as possible. 

Type 9 Alone For the Holidays Tips

Be Near People – You don’t have to be physically alone for the holiday season. You can be near people even if you don’t know them. Reading a book in a coffee shop will feel less lonely than reading it at home.

Make a List – Make a list of things that you can do that includes both low-key activities and more involved activities – a range from reading a book to going skiing – so that you can refer to it when loneliness strikes.

Treat Yourself – As a 9, you probably rarely treat yourself since you often default to the group. Use this time to do something just for you, perhaps something you’ve been squashing down for the sake of the group.

Of course, if you feel that it has become too difficult to deal with loneliness, consider talking to a professional about it. Seeking help can be a great help. Seeking a support group is also a great way to help you through a holiday by yourself.